Consider some of the qualities of an ideal spouse: Ambitious, intelligent, respectful, disciplined, physically attractive, etc.
If you were intentional about finding someone with these qualities, where would you go to find them?
In the book “The Millionaire Mind,” Thomas Stanley, who did the largest widespread study of millionaires, says,
“Many millionaires have told me that they met their spouse at college by chance – someone on campus just introduced Joe and Gloria or Bill and Helen. But all of these people were in a target rich environment. If you are looking for an intelligent spouse, the odds are high that you will find many of them on a college campus. Quality people are found in quality convoys – pick the right one and you may be amazed at how much luck will come your way.”
For many, college and university tends to be the convoy of convoys for ideal spouses. But what about other convoys such as a bar or a club?
When you examine the qualities you look for in an ideal spouse, such as honesty, responsible, loving, capable, and supportive, do you think people who possess those qualities hang out at bars and clubs?
Most likely not.
I’m not saying that there aren’t any good potential spouses at bars. There definitely are. But the chances of you finding a good spouse is a lot lower at a bar than it is at other places.
This is known as the frog problem, which means in order to meet your prince/princess, you have to kiss a lot of frogs first.
Some people do get lucky and they find their ideal spouse at a bar, but this is hardly the ideal convoy in which to look for a spouse. There are just fewer and fewer princes/princesses to be found at bars and clubs.
So, if qualities like ambition and intelligence are desired qualities you look for in a spouse, you can increase your chances of finding someone with these qualities by hanging out at the places where people with these qualities hang out at.
If you want to find someone who’s intelligent, I would suggest that going to college or taking night classes at a local university is a far better convoy to find a spouse.
If you want to find someone with traditional values, I would suggest that going to church is a better convoy to find a spouse.
If you want to find someone who’s ambitious, I would suggest that hanging out near the business section at Barnes and Noble is a better convoy to find a spouse.
If your goal is to find someone who is looking for a one night stand, and not a long term relationship, then the bar would be a better convoy for you to go.
So, if you’re looking for someone you’d be happy to be with, answer the following questions: What qualities do you look for in a spouse? And what convoys do you think people with those qualities hang out at?